Next Week My Book “Struggle Against Porn” Launches

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After a ton of research, writing, and re-writing (and then a lot more re-writing!), my book to help men struggle against pornography is finally ready to launch next week. The title is Struggle Against Porn: 29 Diagnostic Tests for Your Head and Heart.

I wrote the book because many men struggle with porn but only a few struggle against it. And there’s a huge difference between the two.

Look at it like this. If something were wrong with your car, you’d bring it into an auto shop for inspection. The first thing the mechanic would do is hook your car up to a computer for a diagnostic checkup. In a similar way, Struggle Against Porn is designed to be a diagnostic checkup for your head and your heart. Through biblical reflection and more than one hundred questions for personal and group discussion, my goal in writing this book is to help men battle against sexual sin—to slay lust and cultivate love.

Below is the table of contents. I’d love for you to consider buying a copy when it launches.

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FOREWORD by Greg Strand

INTRODUCTION: AGAINST NOT WITH

PART I: FOUNDATIONS

1. “Verily, Verily, I Say unto Thee, Ye Must Be Born Again”
2. Believe Sexual Sin Is Wrong and Cultivate a Hatred of It
3. Fight for Superior Joys
4. Recognize the Grave Danger
5. Run like the Wind
6. Make It Personal: The Women Are Real Image Bearers

PART II: CROSS-TRAINING

7. Cultivate Humility
8. Plant the Bible in the Soil of Your Heart
9. Don’t Avoid Conflict; Engage It
10. Run from and Become Indifferent to Flattery
11. Be Intoxicated with Your Wife
12. Avoid “Dude Talk”
13. Cultivate the Fear of the Lord

PART III: THE NITTY-GRITTY

14. Stop (S-T-O-P!) Masturbating
15. Don’t Be Alone with Sexual Temptation
16. Pursue Deep, Gospel Friendships
17. Only Have Computers (Including Tablets and Smartphones) in Public Areas
18. Install Accountability Software on All Devices
19. Cut Off All Access to Sexually Stimulating Media
20. Know Your Situational and Emotional Triggers; Take Precautions Accordingly
21. Use Visual Smelling Salts to Resist Sexual Sin
22. Share the Existence of the Struggle with Your Wife
23. Go to Bed When Your Wife Goes to Bed
24. Communicate Your Sexual Needs to Your Wife
25. Treat the Sexual Needs of Your Wife as More Important Than Your Own
26. As Needed, Seek Professional Help

PART IV: A BRIGHT FUTURE

27. Become a Passionate Teacher and a Spiritual Father
28. Understand the Lord’s Discipline as His Training of the Sons He Dearly Loves
29. Whatever You Do, Don’t Stop Serving Jesus

CONCLUSION: ONE MAN, TWO STORIES

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